Who are the People I See?

I work with both children and adults and see all ages.

When I See Children
In child therapy I balance the time between seeing the child individually and spending time with their parents. Often children and parents are seen together. The focus with children is to explore ways to support their strengths by using positive consequences when they are on track. Praise is a much stronger motivator for change than criticism or punishment.

When I See Families
In family therapy I encourage each family member to express their thoughts and feelings by maintaining a non-judgmental atmosphere based on respect for each member's contribution. Often families are struggling with children who are non-compliant or disrespectful. As children look for increased freedom and autonomy there may be family problems concerning "who is in control". Sometimes there is sibling rivalry. Brothers and sisters may be fighting because there are other stressors in the home -- perhaps there are unresolved differences between parents that are being reflected in the way the children are getting along. My goal is to help the parents develop effective skills that will assist them to gain the respect and compliance of their children.

When I See Couples
In couples therapy a special interest of mine is to help adults strengthen their relationships. Styles of communication often lead to misunderstanding. At times a person who is very expressive will have difficulties relating to a quiet self-contained person. An emotional person may encounter relationship challenges when they try to connect with a rational person. Learning to understand and respect differences in communication styles is important for a relationship to be successful and to grow. In partner relationships the issue of time together versus time apart can be a dividing factor or the struggle of "who is in control" can cause relationship stress.   Understanding these differences as well as others becomes the focus of therapy with people in relationships.

When I See Individuals
In Individual therapy anxiety and depression which are often connected to low self-esteem are frequent issues with people. Other common concerns that people face relate to stress and addictions. Self care, as well as finding meaning and purpose in life is the anticipated outcome of individual therapy.